Comments on: To Have And To Hold http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/ Purple Should Be A Flavor, Dammit! Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:15:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: becky http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1243 becky Fri, 04 Jan 2008 18:38:20 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1243 Honeywine, I LOVE the way you think. I wore hideous granny-panties to my wedding and was proud as hell of it. No sexxy lingere for me here, no sir. Only underwear that went up to my belly button and covered both my asscheeks with room to spare. Come to think of it, I SHOULD have written something hilarious on the ass like "Exit Only." That would have been a hell of a photo-op should my dress have come up to display that. Honeywine, I LOVE the way you think. I wore hideous granny-panties to my wedding and was proud as hell of it. No sexxy lingere for me here, no sir. Only underwear that went up to my belly button and covered both my asscheeks with room to spare.

Come to think of it, I SHOULD have written something hilarious on the ass like “Exit Only.” That would have been a hell of a photo-op should my dress have come up to display that.

]]> By: honeywine http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1239 honeywine Fri, 04 Jan 2008 02:35:04 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1239 Wear something under the dress that would appall EVERYONE IN THE ROOM! That way you can keep smiling as you think about the Swastika underwear you got on sale! Oh...and if you stay up until 4am sewing clear sequins onto your veil that no one can see but you. You won't give a damn what any of it looks like. You'll just be glad you get to sleep soon. Wear something under the dress that would appall EVERYONE IN THE ROOM! That way you can keep smiling as you think about the Swastika underwear you got on sale!

Oh…and if you stay up until 4am sewing clear sequins onto your veil that no one can see but you. You won’t give a damn what any of it looks like. You’ll just be glad you get to sleep soon.

]]> By: Kristine http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1220 Kristine Thu, 03 Jan 2008 14:07:58 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1220 Are we doing wedding advice or marriage advice? Wedding advice - it's YOUR day, pick the things you care about the most and make those decisions, and let someone else (your future spouse, your mom, your best friend, your sister) make the rest of them. And if you can't hire a wedding planner, at least pick a friend to "run the show." Someone to tell people where to stand and what's going to happen next. And then let them do their job. Marriage advice - always remember that there are 6 sides to a conversation. (1)What I said, (2)What I think I said, (3)What you think I said, (4)What you said, (5)What you think you said, and (6)What I think you said. Communication is key. Are we doing wedding advice or marriage advice?

Wedding advice – it’s YOUR day, pick the things you care about the most and make those decisions, and let someone else (your future spouse, your mom, your best friend, your sister) make the rest of them. And if you can’t hire a wedding planner, at least pick a friend to “run the show.” Someone to tell people where to stand and what’s going to happen next. And then let them do their job.

Marriage advice – always remember that there are 6 sides to a conversation. (1)What I said, (2)What I think I said, (3)What you think I said, (4)What you said, (5)What you think you said, and (6)What I think you said. Communication is key.

]]> By: Heather http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1217 Heather Thu, 03 Jan 2008 06:12:27 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1217 It's totally normal to wake in a cold sweat from a nightmare involving you, your dude-to-be, and the wedding party at KMart (and you in the buff because you forgot the dress!). Isn't it?! Or was that just me? Okay, joking aside, pocket the cash and take a really nice extended honeymoom. If not that, hire a wedding coordinator who won't be afraid to take care of business. And congratulations, Ashley! It’s totally normal to wake in a cold sweat from a nightmare involving you, your dude-to-be, and the wedding party at KMart (and you in the buff because you forgot the dress!). Isn’t it?! Or was that just me?

Okay, joking aside, pocket the cash and take a really nice extended honeymoom. If not that, hire a wedding coordinator who won’t be afraid to take care of business. And congratulations, Ashley!

]]> By: Jenn http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1216 Jenn Thu, 03 Jan 2008 04:22:15 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1216 Ugh. I feel the same way about weddings! I didn't even have one (which pissed my in-laws off but hey, you can't please everyone!), we got married in our living room by a notary public, haha. Being married is pretty great, though. If you're married to the right person. Congratulations to your friend! Ugh. I feel the same way about weddings! I didn’t even have one (which pissed my in-laws off but hey, you can’t please everyone!), we got married in our living room by a notary public, haha.

Being married is pretty great, though. If you’re married to the right person. Congratulations to your friend!

]]> By: becky http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1215 becky Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:18:29 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1215 Karen, I think you just touched on one of the hardest and most important things in a marriage and/or relationship, and really life: perfection is not even remotely attainable. Not even close. Once you let this go, it's much easier to be happy with what's right in front of you. Unfortuately, no one is perfect, nor would we want them to be. Our flaws are what make us interesting. Karen, I think you just touched on one of the hardest and most important things in a marriage and/or relationship, and really life: perfection is not even remotely attainable. Not even close.

Once you let this go, it’s much easier to be happy with what’s right in front of you.

Unfortuately, no one is perfect, nor would we want them to be. Our flaws are what make us interesting.

]]> By: becky http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1212 becky Thu, 03 Jan 2008 01:29:34 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1212 I'm with Gail, dude. I think I already warned you of how everyone else expects to be appeased during your wedding. It's damn annoying, that's for certain. I’m with Gail, dude. I think I already warned you of how everyone else expects to be appeased during your wedding. It’s damn annoying, that’s for certain.

]]> By: Karen http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1214 Karen Thu, 03 Jan 2008 01:05:20 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1214 Congrats to your friend. Despite many years of being a divorce lawyer, I still get goosebumps when someone tells me they are getting married. It is such a magical time. I always joke that I could write a booke about marriage - and while that book alludes me, I have written dozens of articles and legal documents. My advice is just to be realistic about the wedding, and especially the marriage. I see too many relationships fall apart because people expect perfection. Congrats to your friend. Despite many years of being a divorce lawyer, I still get goosebumps when someone tells me they are getting married. It is such a magical time. I always joke that I could write a booke about marriage – and while that book alludes me, I have written dozens of articles and legal documents. My advice is just to be realistic about the wedding, and especially the marriage. I see too many relationships fall apart because people expect perfection.

]]> By: Leslee http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1211 Leslee Wed, 02 Jan 2008 23:41:29 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1211 Heh. I was 6 months pregnant and got married by the mayor of the town next to where I lived. The ex-husband had joined the ARMY (this was the <i>first</i> time he enlisted) and we needed to be married for the insrance. And, even though it was a quicky cheap ass wedding, it <i>still</i> managed to be about every one except me! o_O I try not to give any one advice on weddings and/or marriage. I'm far too jaded to be doing that. Heh. I was 6 months pregnant and got married by the mayor of the town next to where I lived. The ex-husband had joined the ARMY (this was the first time he enlisted) and we needed to be married for the insrance. And, even though it was a quicky cheap ass wedding, it still managed to be about every one except me! o_O

I try not to give any one advice on weddings and/or marriage. I’m far too jaded to be doing that.

]]> By: Amy http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/to-have-and-to-hold/#comment-1208 Amy Wed, 02 Jan 2008 22:11:29 +0000 http://mommywantsvodka.psys.org/?p=184#comment-1208 I'm going to say "ditto" to the quick and easy wedding. I went for the big fancy wedding and about 6 months before the wedding I was ready to rip my hair out and wanted to hop the next flight to Vegas. Not to mention I had 18 months between our engagement and our wedding date...way too much time to play with. A second piece of advice...do things the way YOU want to do them. I spent way too much time trying to please everyone else when planning my wedding and not enough time worrying about what I wanted. Just do you what you want to do and make sure that you are happy with it...screw everyone else (boy do I wish someone would have given me that advice 3 years ago). I’m going to say “ditto” to the quick and easy wedding. I went for the big fancy wedding and about 6 months before the wedding I was ready to rip my hair out and wanted to hop the next flight to Vegas. Not to mention I had 18 months between our engagement and our wedding date…way too much time to play with.

A second piece of advice…do things the way YOU want to do them. I spent way too much time trying to please everyone else when planning my wedding and not enough time worrying about what I wanted. Just do you what you want to do and make sure that you are happy with it…screw everyone else (boy do I wish someone would have given me that advice 3 years ago).

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