During a game of drunken Truth or Dare in college, my friends and I decided that the best course of action was to go around the room talking about our sexual fantasies. By the time it was my turn, we’d already heard from everyone including Matt, my friend Matthias’s roommate. He’d spun some elaborate tale I hadn’t followed involving some older woman that he’d screwed in the pool room of the hotel he’d worked, but he had shifty eyes so I totally didn’t believe him. I was beyond loaded, so I couldn’t figure out why the room was looking at me expectantly.
When they nudged me to speak, I slurred out, “I…dunnooo…I just….like…sex?” In hindsight, I should have kept my whore mouth firmly shut.
Whether it was that drunken proclamation, punctuated by stabbing myself in the leg with a lit cigarette or that I’d said “hello” to him when I walked into the apartment, I can’t be sure, but I made a grave error in judgement. While the rest of the room rolled their eyes and laughed at me being a drunk asshole, Matt fell deep into..something with me.
I must have made quite the impression that night, because the following weekend when we were both in our hometown I got a phone call from him. It seemed that he wanted to meet up that evening for dinner. Being that I was in town to see my family, I politely declined and he hung up on me angrily. What I didn’t realize was that I was about to unleash an unholy shit storm neatly atop my own oblivious head.
I’ve since gotten better about reading people, but at the time, I was pretty naive and mistook his shifty eyes for “needing to replace his contacts” not “being a fucking psychopath.” Bad move, Aunt Becky, bad move. By the time I crawled back to my shoebox of a dorm on Sunday night, my roommate looked at me somewhat wide-eyed and said, “Someone named ‘Matt’ has been calling you every ten minutes for the past three hours. He won’t leave a message but he’s kinda creeping me out because he gets mad every time I tell him you’re not here.” Well, fuck.
The following week, I began to receive reports of Matt hanging around our dorm and the phone calls continued unrelentingly. Finally the following week, I stumbled blearily out of the dooms with the throngs of other students making their way to 9AM classes, when I saw Matt hanging out by the gigantic fountain that we called The Ashtray. He was scanning the crowd intently, clearly looking for someone and I kept my head down and managed to walk right past him without him noticing me. When I returned from class, I saw him there again. He caught my eye and trapped in his line of sight, I walked up to him. He asked if I wanted to get lunch, and I told him the truth, I had other plans, and rather than accept that gracefully, he stomped away, angry.
I stood there for a couple of moments, dumbfounded. Certainly, I wasn’t going to date him, but I would have been his friend, jagged edges and all, before that little tantrum. After that stunt, however, absolutely not. I found out that he’d harassed all of the people that had been at the party about what a horrible bitch I was.
A couple of nights later, I called over to Matthias’s apartment in search of Matthias, and Matt answered the phone. Rather than call him out on his bad behavior, I figured it was best to pretend that the entire situation hadn’t happened, so I simply asked if Matthias was home. Recognizing my voice, he growled, “NO!” into the phone and hung it up without so much as asking if he could take a message.
Well, then. I’d had enough. I turned to the dorm room which was full of my friends and said, “Fucker just hung up on me.”
Outraged, and knowing that Matt had been a jackass to both Matthias—who wouldn’t hurt a fly—and me, who really didn’t deserve the anger, we hatched a plan. We didn’t get mad, we got even. My friend Pashmina acted first.
She grabbed the phone, dialed the number and when Matt answered, she said very sweetly, “Hi Matt, it’s Pashmina, you know, Matthias’s friend? Well, I was calling to see if Matthias was home. We were going out and wanted to see if he could come with us to the coffee shop…” On and on she droned about her boring plans. Eventually, she hung up the phone and handed it to James, who dialed the number.
“Hi, this is James. Is Matthias there? I was calling to invite him to study with me in the library for our history midterm and I know he likes to study with a partner…” on and on James went about his plans for the evening. Eventually he hung up, passing the phone to Pashmina’s roommate, Marcy. This continued no less than eight times. Each of us, calling with some long-winded, rambling story about why we needed to see Matthias and what we were doing and blah, blah, blah. It must have been excruciating for him to listen to.
What can I say? My friends love me. More importantly, my friends also know a good time when they see it.
After we all had made our calls to Matt, we sat around smoking our cigarettes and nursing our tall rum and Cokes looking at each other and laughing at our ingeniousness. There was no way Matt would be bothering any of us again because we were too fucking annoying. If he was childish, we could beat him at that game.
About half an hour after the last phone call, one by one, we all called Matt back, telling him not to have Matthias call us, after all, because, wouldn’t you know it? PLANS HAD CHANGED. I think after the third or fourth phone call, he finally took the phone off the hook. I can’t believe it took him that long.
After that, though, we all noticed that Matt would deliberately go out of his way to avoid all of us when we’d cross paths on campus. If he’d spy me walking his way, he’d walk across the quad so as not to accidentally sideswipe me.
I’d suddenly gone from hot ticket to plague-bearer and I couldn’t have been happier.
I was among the horrified masses when Kotex launched their “Have A Happy Period” campaign. It had clearly been thought up by dudes, because I don’t know a single chick who would be, “man, my period is SO MUCH HAPPIER.” Periods just ARE.
Anyway, over the one thing responsible for keeping my room at sub-arctic temperatures – the only way I can sleep – my window A/C unit – decided to start leaking. I, being the brilliant specimen of humanity that I am, didn’t realize it until I walked into my bedroom to put on a bra and was all, *sniff, sniff* “WHYZ IT SMELL MUSTY? IZ IT FUCKING GNOMES AGAIN?”
I turned on the overhead light and saw, much to my horror, that my brilliant, treasured and adored window A/C unit was leaking. It was motherfucking leaking onto my motherfucking carpet.
After I stopped wringing my hands and gnashing my teeth and throwing myself onto my bed dramatically saying, “WHY ME GOD, WHY ME?” I got up to assess the damage.
Okay. A couple of things got soaked, I could handle that. I threw them in the wash and lugged out my trusty steam cleaner. I’m going to insist they bury me with it because it is so full of the awesome.
Before I started steam-cleaning my way to heaven, I had to move a couple of things out of the way to allow proper access to the Wet Spot (very unlike the OTHER Wet Spot). Including half of my clothes from Type-A Parent. I’m an excellent bedroom-cleaner, OBVS.
Well, in that stash of crap were a couple of maxi-pads. I’d figured I’d just be shoving them into the BlogHer bag when I got around to packing this week, so I never bothered to put ‘em away.
I grabbed ‘em, snorting at the “Have a Happy Period” crap when I realized that the maxi pads had finally given me a reason to smile.
They’d absorbed a bunch of the water from my leaky *sobs* A/C unit.
Now THAT is a motherfucking happy period.
Dear Aunt Becky,
Just a quick one… can I block a site from looking me up. I was checking out my stats (well… my blog stats) and found, much to my utter horror, that some porn site in Russia is sending quite a bit of traffic my way.
Now I’m all for traffic but I don’t know if I want some porno Russian reading up on my life… how do I do the Internet Protect thing?
It’s my NAME! I’m Working Mom… BUT NOT THAT KIND OF WORKING MOM, you Russian Nit! I’m a Mom that works… at a job… full time… Maybe I should just change my name… But I’ve always been Working Mom…
Oh, Dear Prankster, do I feel your plight. Here, let me show you:
But this, this is taken from the Band Back Together stats thingy I use and there’s a zillion more like it. Now, Mommy Wants Vodka? Perhaps that would make sense. But Band Back Together is like, um, GOOD shit, and my blog, well, let’s be honest with ourselves here.
Now, I don’t ever block IP addresses. And if I did, it would require much hand-wringing and teeth-gnashing before I gave it over to The Daver.
But I’m going to do my best to help you. I will assume you run Windows Vista Firewall or Norton Anti-Virus Firewall. Let’s start with Norton, because I like the name better.
How To Block an IP Address if You Run Norton Internet Security:
- Open Norton Internet Security and hit, “settings, under the field “internet.”
- Hit, “advanced settings: configure” under “smart firewall. “
- Hit “general rules: configure,” and the button, “add.”
- Choose button, “block” and hit “next.”
- Choose, “connections to and from other computers,” and hit “next.”
- Choose, “only computers and sites listed below.”
- Hit, “add” and type the IP address you’re blocking in the space.” Hit “okay” then “next.”
- Hit “next” two times as the default settings are fine.
- Give this firewall a nice name, like, “Russian porn,” and hit, “next” then “finish” to block this IP Address from stalking you again.
Then buy Aunt Becky a nice cup of coffee (read: vodka).
Blocking IP Addresses From Windows Vista:
- Login to the admin account in Windows vista and hit “start.”
- Type in “firewall,” and hit, “windows firewall with advanced security” located under “programs.”
- Choose “inbound rules” on the left side of the firewall window.
- Choose “custom” then hit “next.”
- Choose “all programs” and hit “next.” And hit “next” again.
- Choose “these IP addresses” in the area, “remote IP addresses.”
- Hit “add” and type your Russian Porno site’s IP address in that area.
- Hit “OK” then “next.”
- Choose “block the connection” then hit “next.”
- Type in a nice descriptive name for this firewall rule (Russian Porno Site) and hit “next,” then “finish” to block ‘em.
- Choose “outbound rules” on the left side of the firewall window and repeat steps four through ten.
Then buy Aunt Becky thirty cups of coffee or at least one.
Good luck, Prankster. And if it’s any consolation, they’re probably NOT reading your archives.
Dear Aunt Becky,
How come in your new schmantzy pants website you no longer link to We Know Awesome? Also, what on earth are schmantzy pants? I think I made up a word. By pants I mean underwear as I am English btw!
Ah, Prankster, I’m glad as hell you pointed it out. I’d thought there WAS a button up for We Know Awesome and seeing that it’s not sent me into a “THAT’S BULLSHIT,” rage. Having my designer work something up so we can fix this.
Thank you for letting me know!
Dear Awesomest Aunt Becky;
I have been dating a man for 4 years, after being divorced for 1. Every 6 months or so he decides that he has “loving feelings” towards me but he doesn’t have desire for me physically. So we break up, during which time we fuck like bunnies.
So we admit that we are really still together and go back to being BF/GF. So we are in yet another “slump” and I’m not sure what to do. Do I tell him that I am done with this even though I love him to death as does my 6 y/o son? Or do I wait it out knowing he’ll swing back the other way soon enough?
Thanks for your advice!
Oh Lisa, I’ve been with That Guy before and he kinda sucks. But he’s kinda awesome, too.
So here’s my advice: do you like this limbo? Do you like not knowing whether you’re going to be dating or not? Can you handle the back and forth of it all? Is it worth it?
Because if the answer to any of those is, “no,” I’d suggest moving on. Love or not, you deserve someone who loves and desires you all of the time, not someone who keeps you in limbo.
That’s just my two cents. Which probably make zero sense.
Dear Aunt Becky,
Wanted to know where my shirt was! I ordered one of your awesome shirts and it hasn’t arrived! HALP!
Oh Prankster, you made my day. I love it when you guys buy my shirts. Because I think they’re full of the awesome.
I spoke with my shirt guy (who currently stocks my stuff) and he’s mailing out a number of the shirts on Monday. They screen print the shirts and I know they’re done now, so, you know, thanks for your patience.
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you don’t get it by Wednesday of this week (or so).
And send me a picture of yourself wearing it for my Gallery of Awesome Shirts! Doing something wacky, you know? I like wacky. And if you have a blog, send me the URL so I can add it.
What do you think of a “Mommy Drinks Because You Cry” shirt?
As always, Pranksters, please pick up where I left off in the comments! And tell us your creepiest stalker IP addresses.
OH and stalker stories. I love stalker stories.