Comments on: Great Expectations, Giant Let Down

By: excavator

excavator — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:01:00 +0000

Hi, Aunt Becky

I came over from Mrs. Spit’s spot. Happy (belated) 28th.

I have a dh who works insane hours too; now that the kids are older it’s easier…but remembering some of those days of trying to get a meal on the table with one child clinging to my leg and crying and the other hollering from another room with trouble with homework or a toy or something–shudder. I too know how outraged you can feel when several days off get whittled down to one, which then becomes a half-day, which then becomes no day off at all, which then becomes working very very late. You may also be a veteran of the “I’m-coming-home-at-6″ call, to get a call at 7 saying “I’m-coming-home-at-8″, lather, rinse, repeat. But then the worst of all is when he doesn’t understand why the upset: why should that be bothersome? It’s very difficult to be asked to explain the obvious, and no one should ever be put in that position.

I think sometimes the most satisfying of rants can raise the anxiety of others, who then want to fix things for you so they can quit being anxious. I’m glad to see that Kendra came to her senses and apologized–to be reprimanded for how you were feeling was probably salt in the wound.

Nice ‘meeting’ you, Aunt Becky! I’m eager to look around your blog some more.

Those were major slog days

By: antigone

antigone — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 22:40:23 +0000

Happy Birthday

By: Judy C

Judy C — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:49:09 +0000

DNFTT

By: pamajama

pamajama — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:42:55 +0000

In all deference to Kendra, can you imagine having to blow Hugh Hefner regularly? It’s got to be all shriveled up and shit . . .

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 18:23:08 +0000

I came back to check out Kendra’s comment. I am amused.

By: kendra

kendra — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:52:40 +0000

I was a little hard on you. You took your bad day out on the internet and I took mine out on you. Sorry. Don’t get me wrong, I stand by a lot if not most of what I said. But I love your writing and you are entitled to a bad day. Happy Birthday.

By: Kyddryn

Kyddryn — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:35:04 +0000

Aww, baby…I’m sorry. That sucks – and your reason is so much like my own for loathing birthdays. I might not mind them so much if I felt like anyone actually cared about them and maybe once in a while wanted to celebrate, oh, my being born or whatnot. I got tired of planning my own birthday parties, baking my own cakes, and practically begging people to celebrate with me. I quit years ago, and now…well, my Mum remembers and that’s about it.

Yeah, unless I write him notes and remind him fifty three time a minute during the weeks leading up to the day, even my husband doesn’t do a damn thing. I feel so fucking loved, lemme tell ya.

In a perfect world, the people we loved would understand that it’s not about gifts – it’s about feeling treasured, feeling as though they are happy that we came into this life, feeling as though the day we were born has some meaning beyond adding another year to our tally. Also, gifts. Lots of gifts.

Shade and Sweetwater,
K (I can bake you a cake but you’ll have to come and get it)

By: Judy C

Judy C — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:54:44 +0000

Aunt Becky,

Come on over to Five Husbands for your very own birthday shout out from golden boy Son No. 1 (who was barely awake but couldn’t wait to say Happy Birthday)!

Hugs and love from Ohio!

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By: sara

sara — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:19:48 +0000

I’m sorry girl – and want to wish a big ole happy birthday! Us girls with the Cancer birthdays (especially those this week – mine was the 13th) have to stick together! I will be sitting here eating cake with you in spirit – just let me know the time. Are you thinking afternoon, or evening? You pick the flavor, I’ll just help you eat it, okay? We could pretend that sparkling water is more like a martini…dirty or a Grey Goose…or perhaps if you like the more froo froo ones – an Appletini? I’m a hell of a mixer Honestly, I hope it is a better birthday than it originally seems.

As far as your observation – yes you indeed are a smart cookie- both of us with the UUs and the problems are due likely to the UU. Some UU girls get lucky and have normal pregnancies, and no problems with infertility. A UU can make getting pregnant difficult, but the more risks involved actually come once you get pregnant. That’s why some UUs choose gestational surrogacy. But you were right on the money! Incompetent cervix, preterm labor, and IUGR are some of the main concerns with a UU. Hugs to you birthday girl!