Comments on: Go Ask Aunt Statia

By: Pammy Pam

Pammy Pam — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:57:07 +0000

male teacher response here.
honey, as a fellow abuse survivor i say do what your gut tells you. you wont be happy or comfortable if you let your precious little one in that class, will you? besides, what if you have to be alone with mr. teacher? anything that freaks you out may freak out your little one. do what’s safest for you and to HELL what anyone else thinks! good luck!!

By: katryn

katryn — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 07:49:34 +0000

yep, i have to agree about the dog. do not trust it near the children. ever. growling is a display of aggression and the thin edge of the wedge. hoomans simply cannot read dog minds. my own dog (raised lovingly by me) bit me. i now have a scarred left boob
i disregarded her warning growl and she went for me. she was not a puppy either, she was 2 years old.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 02:13:18 +0000

Just read the chapter you sent to me Aunt Becky and it’s an amazing story that you tell. Loved it from beginning to end and I can’t wait to read the whole entire thing and YOU BETTER go on tour and do a book signing. Maybe while you are signing your books, your real family will come forward! I for one, will show up early and keep going through the line until the guards physically remove me or until you get fed up with me and leave.

By: ohiofarmgirl

ohiofarmgirl — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 23:56:20 +0000

i told my MIL if her stupid dog bit me (again) i would kick it until it was dead. problem solved.

Doggone Tired should not let her kid/s within 100ft of that dog. the owners dont have control over it and sure it might not bite “a person” its obvious that the dog only sees the kid/s as bait. if the parents wont put the dog up when they are there she should take the kid/s and leave.

By: Kendra

Kendra — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:45:12 +0000

Fantastic advice about the teacher, I’d like to say. My oldest son is in first grade, and since I stay at home, we’re just getting used to the idea of leaving him with adults he’s not related to. But he’s getting into Scouting too, and that’s something I never thought about, but that they emphasize: there is no reason for the adult (scout leader, teacher, pastor, etc) to be alone with a single child. Even in the best cases, there’s the possibility for things to be misunderstood. In the worst cases, something bad happens. By all means, learn more about the teacher, talk to ex-students and to him. But it can really help to understand (and make clear) certain expectations about what is and is not appropriate.

By: statia

statia — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:28:18 +0000

It took me getting in his face before he finally “got” it. And now we don’t speak to his mother. Probably a harsh solution, but she’s a toxic person, and it was solely his decision to cut that tie. It’s made our life a whole lot easier. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses.

He’s no longer diplomatic about such things.

By: Diane

Diane — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 21:54:33 +0000

I have two comments.

1. Stay away from the dog. My in laws’ dog bit both my children (and yes we spoke to them about it but we were made out to be the bad guys in the family). It was not until my sister in law was bitten that the dog was put down. Don’t try to be super vigilent as that is what we did and the second child was bitten in the blink of an eye.

2. My kids had a male gym teacher from junior kindergarden on and he was amazing (and when the kids were small, the kids changed into gym clothes together in one room with the teacher). A good male teacher is worth their weight in gold. I understand your history, but please don’t write them all off as there are some amazing caring men in the role of teacher and we have so few of them at the elementary level.

By: Wombat Central

Wombat Central — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 20:41:49 +0000

Gotta comment on the dog letter. Daddy-0 really needs to get on board with this one, because that dog is a real danger to your kids. It isn’t like a small breed that might just nip them, either. This dog could do some serious damage. Grandma and Grandpa are kidding themselves if they think otherwise. I’m a lover of dogs who was bitten twice in the face as a kid (coincidentally, one was a husky). I’d lay down ground rules before you make the next trip. Dog is gated and walked by leash to go out for potty breaks.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:56:16 +0000

I had to chime in about the male teacher. Gawd it’s hard. I was recently introduced to my soon to be kindergartners, principal. He’s a….guy. Wow. My brain was speeding into overdrive thinking and thinking and yes, over-thinking every possible thing that could go wrong with a MALE principal. The Nerve~~ Then, I took a step back and remembered my elementary school years, middle school and high school. Every single year (exception last year of high school year) I had a male principal. Every single male principal was just fine. Never once touched me (or anyone that I know of). All outstanding members of the community.

After I thought about how wonderful all those men in schools were, I felt more relaxed and will be just fine sending my daughter to school this year when she starts kindergarten.

And it’s true…….the media makes child predators sound like they are a lot more common than they really are.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:22:26 +0000

{{{{{{HUGS KATE, BETHANY and LAURA}}}}}}

Thank you Becky for spreading the word {{{HUGS}}}