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Color me confused but something didn’t translate over when I transferred the list of the babies I’m honoring. I KNOW I included CLC’s daughter Hannah here, and for some reason my Mac hates me. A lot. This is nothing new. So I beg of you, please, please, PLEASE holler if I knocked you off the list for some reason. I ASSURE you that I didn’t forget any of you.
*sighs*
Computers totally hate me.
Back in March I begged all of you, my sweet and faithful blog readers to perform random acts of kindness in honor of all of my friends who had lost babies. The turnout was, in a word, incredible. Between my blog and all of the other blogs that followed my lead, we had a huge amount of wonderful kind deeds that were done.
My heart was warmed and touched by all of your support. I think of it daily whenever I need a little mental pick-me-up and it always does the trick. I know that the world is populated by some incredible people, and I’m fortunate enough to have so many of those people who have found my ickle old blog.
I promised back then, after Alex turned one that I would turn every holiday I could think of into another reason to celebrate the lives of children who should be with us today and the families who are left with only memories where their children should have been.
One of my least favorite holidays is looming on the horizon, and although I initially had planned to do this earlier in the week, other things have gotten in the way.
Mother’s Day is on Sunday, and rather than spend my money on some stupid stuff for my mother and my mother-in-law, I am making a donation here:
And here: Aodin’s Mom, Heather started Project Flutter. Go read about it.
As before, I am not asking you to give money that you do not have. Hell, I’m not asking you to give money at all if you don’t want to. I’m only asking that you do something good and kind for someone else in honor of this brutal holiday. And if I think the holiday is brutal, one can only imagine how it must feel for the parents who will always be missing one from their family.
I will remind you once again of those children and families that we are doing this for:
Baby JP
JoeJoe Sherman
Baby Nick
Jonathan
Now, I’ll be happy to add to this list, as I know I haven’t even begun to properly pay tribute to all of these lives, so if you’d like me to add your child’s name, please don’t hesitate to email me becky (at) dwink (dot) net or leave me a comment and I will email you.
And as for those kind souls who will join me in celebrating these lives by performing kind deeds, please let me know what you’ve done and I will put YOUR name down here. A week from today I will randomly select a name and send you some kick ass stuff. It might even involve….GARBAGE PAIL KIDS. Remember those?
Party of 5 is getting in on the action. Go see.
My dear friend KBreints is making a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep in honor of her still brother, Ryan.
My homegirl Tash at Awful But Functioning has made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep in honor of her Maddy.
Emily at Wheels On The Bus has some great suggestions for an alternative Mother’s Day.
Anjali donated to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.
Hennifer is making a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.
Kyddryn made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep in her mother’s name.
Ames has made a number of handmade hats and blankets to her NICU.
Chris has made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.
Kim made a donation to Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.
You’re all amazing people, seriously, you are, and I’m honored to know you all. I can’t wait to hear what good deeds have been done this time around. Your Aunt Becky fucking hearts you all.
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Becky,
I lost my son’s identical twin, Jonathan, 7.5 years ago. I miss him like the sun. It hurts my heart to even write his name for missing him so very much. We lost him at 28 weeks, and had Lewis at 33 weeks, I never got to take a photo of him, for obvious reasons (with the time that had passed). Nevertheless, I know exactly what he looked like, just like my Lewis, they were Identical. Sometimes this is a blessing, moreoften, a curse. I look in Louie’s eyes and see Jonathan, but can’t find him, because he’s gone. I still have vivid dreams of searching for him, always in a field (not sure why)…and I wake up sweating and crying out.
Mother’s day is so bittersweet for me, happy for the one I have but lost for the one that is no longer with us.
I’m at my desk at work,trying to figure out why I feel so anxious, so doubtful, so sad, so very sad. Your post just cleared it up for me.
Most days I do really well with this, and find comfort in the memory of him. Some days, like today, I want to crawl into the closest corner and wail, like it was just yesterday that the doctors told us he was gone, it feels like yesterday….
thank you for taking the time to write so beautifully about this subject.
my heart just hurts for my child and for all the rest that have gone too soon….and for you, my dear friend, your loss is felt.
thanks again, for giving me the venue to express this heavy stuff.
oh yeah, I donated to “now i lay me down to sleep” because of YOU….you should be proud of getting the word out.
Awwww, you’re just so lovely. Sadly for me the whole mother’s day thing has been shot to hell so I’m finding it hard to do anything for my own mother. I was considering donating in her honor to some relief agency that helped obstetrics/childbirth in war-torn/developing countries, but nothing has really come of my web searches. NILMDTS is a good ‘nother option for me If I’m still grasping at straws tonight, thanks for the reminder and kick in the pants.
Oh how I adore you for this. Thanks for the link, but thanks even more for just another remembering of my sweet son and all of the other little angels who’ve gone before us.
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Gawd, you are such a sweetheart! You are too cool for words, you know that already! Thank you once again, maybe, this is something I can do for my Mommy and Grandmommy, I’ll make a donation to Project Flutter in both of their names. I owe H., anyway! She like you is a kind and loving soul! Many hugs and ooshy, gooshy, kisses to you!
Oh my goodness. I have read so many stories and my heart has broken with these women, you are AMAZING for taking the initiative and doing this. I will be reading every link you have posted.
on another note, can you get me the graphic, or a link to it, of the monsters chasing the kitten? I must have it…..
email me if you get time, thanks Darling!
Thank you for keeping me on my toes, I have made a donation to Now I lay me down to sleep for my mother in memory of my brother Ryan, who was still born and whom she never laid eyes on.
I wish I could turn back the clock to take away her one true regret.
This looks like an amazing charity. I only wish that I could do more.
I know you really mean it when you put “fucking” in front of it. I think it’s safe to say we fucking heart you, too. I know I do. XO.
You just keep reminding me why I love this site. I’d love it if you could add my daughter Abigail Hlee and our friends little boy JoeJoe Sherman to the list. My daughter was diagnosed with Anencephaly during our routine U/S and JoeJoe had a brain stem tumor and left us at only a year and a half old but that was an amazing year and a half.
Gabriel Anton Salava
I don’t want you to put my name anywhere or send me any stuff… but I agree that making a donation, rather than buying a “it’s the thought that counts” type gift on mother’s day, is a great idea.
I donated to the BlogHer GlobalGiving campaign.
http://www.globalgiving.com/blogher.html?RF=blogher08
I posted about your plea. I hope others take your advice. {{{HUGS}}} to everyone on Mother’s Day.
I also have to add baby Nick who left our friend Sarah and Dave at 25wks.
Can you add CLC’s beautiful baby girl Hannah to the list.:)
Hey Aunt Becky,
It’s done…made my donation to NILMDTS…It’s amazing what a mommy who loves vodka can do, huh?
Lovely, and I will link to you on Sunday.
I think this is a fabulous idea. I’ve hated this day for years – love my mom and mil and we do nice stuff for them, but for me? HATE it. Hate the hypocrisy and hate the exclusionary nature and hate how it makes me feel worse on a day when people are suppose to be making you feel GOOD. Plotting my good deed weekend now . . .
Anywho – I am still laughing my head off over the poor kitten.
I don’t drink though – so I am not sure what I could punish my liver with, mass quantities of Ibuprofen perhaps??
I will be making a donation of hats and blankets (hand-made with knitting needles and crochet hooks by myself and my mother) to our local NICU. We have been working on them all year and finally have enough to make a decent donation. When Gracie was there we received two beautiful handmade blankets and many handmade hats for her and I thought it was only fair that we pay it forward.
P.S. I <3 You, you are a truly amazing woman
Thank you for remembering us. My sons were Jacob and Joshua, lost at 20 weeks.
Mother’s day has been hard for a while, as my mom died 7 years ago, and we’ve been infertile for almost 3. Fucking sucks.
I’m making a donation to NILMDTS in my mum’s name for Mother’s day, because I’m too old to be making macaroni necklaces and she doesn’t need any more yarn or tchotchkes
Shade and Sweetwater,
K
Thank you for giving me the kick in the pants I needed.
I’ve been so touched by all these powerful women/mothers. I’ve been reading up on NILMDTS and it seems for so many that these precious pictures of their babes are so healing, so connecting.
I’ve made my first donation to NILMDTS with my stimulus refund.
I’m excited about Project Flutter and hope I can support her great cause.
All you mamas are so empowering with all you do for healing yourselves, remembering your children and supporting the others that follow in your steps (unfortunate at it may be)
Hallmark be damned but you are all great mother’s and I bow to you on this special day.
I’ve made my donation. Thank you again for raising awareness and comforting so many broken hearts.
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This is how I found you not all that long ago. I went straight to Now I Lay Me. . . and after wiping away a lot of tears, I hit the donate button.
This week, as we have every Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, we donate to Make a Wish Foundation. I received daisies and a lovely card. With the blessings I have already received, that is way more than enough . . .
Thank you so much for doing this . . . you are an amazing soul.