Comments on: A Becky By Any Other Name…

By: stephanie

stephanie — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:10:20 +0000

oops… forgot to add into that post — here from ICLW and thanks for visiting/commenting on my blog.

By: stephanie

stephanie — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:09:33 +0000

I changed my name without a 2nd thought when I got married. It’s when I got divorced that I had to think things through long and hard. I elected to retain my married name as long as the ex and I had children in common together and as long as those children were of school age – so much easier on the school system for one thing. If I were to remarry, my kids are old enough to understand why we would then have different last names (I would not keep my ex’s last name if I remarried). But until then, I EARNED the priviledge of retaining the name my children use. That’s my take on it anyway.

By: Baby Smiling in Back Seat

Baby Smiling in Back Seat — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 04:00:14 +0000

Thanks for your ICLW comment and your kind words…

Didn’t change my name, never ever ever would, and I am full of bossy advice for brides who ask. I am also full of bossy advice for grooms who try to pressure their brides but the brides want to keep their own names. And when people try to call me Mrs. anything (DH’s name or my own), I am full of bossy corrections.

One of my relatives strongly wanted to keep her own name (same as mine), yet at her wedding she got called Mrs. X no less than 3 times, during the ceremony, introductions, and one of the speeches. I told her during the wedding that I fully supported her keeping our name. Well, less than a year later they were divorced (totally unrelated to the name change of course). Good thing she didn’t change it.

By: In a name « Wheels on the bus

In a name « Wheels on the bus — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:16:13 +0000

[...] Because Becky asked. [...]

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 01:14:54 +0000

I changed without thinking twice about it. And I like my husband’s last name. I like that’s it is now very much my own. But in the past 8 weeks, I’ve been questioning that choice. After over 8.5 years. I’ve been wishing I’d kept Duncan. Maybe because I’m thinking now that I may never have that 3rd or 4th baby whom I intended to bestow my maiden name upon? Idk. But finding out from you that I, too, would have to drop Elizabeth, which I’ve always liked, makes me think twice. Hmmm. Again, perhaps because 3 or 4 may never show up, and never be given Elizabeth? Still don’t know.

By: elle michelle

elle michelle — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 02:19:04 +0000

As I have done absolutely nothing noteworthy enough career-wise to justify keeping my last name, I’m changing it. (Swapping my Italian maiden name for my Italian married name. Husband has requested I hyphenate so I can be Super Duper Dago, but that’s a little much for me.) Of course, I’m pretty lazy, so let’s see how long this process actually takes.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 03:28:08 +0000

Well, I always said I’d change my name if I got to upgrade… something like Smith or Jones would be nice.

Once I decided to have a child on my own the only way I’d change my name is if the man I married ended up adopting the boy… and I’m not sure I’d want him to have any legal rights to MY son if it didn’t work out.

So my plan would be to keep my last name so the boy had one member of the family with the same last name as him. If I had more kids with the husband then they’d get hubby’s last name.

By: Painted Maypole

Painted Maypole — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 03:15:34 +0000

i wasn’t conflicted about changing my name, but I still use my maiden name for all my acting work, and so sometimes STILL, 12 years into my marriage,I introduce myself with my maiden name when I should use my married name. (oddly enough, it has never gone in the opposite direction) This becomes especially confusing when credit cards or doctor records are involved.

By: heather...

heather... — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 23:07:35 +0000

I did exactly what you did, Maiden Name to middle name. PEACE OUT, Heather Lynn Maidenname. HELLO Heather Maidenname Spohr.

I use my Maiden Name still at work. Which is why I’m not posting it here. My married name is all over google but not my “work” name. I need to keep it that way or I’m screwed.

By: gypsygrrl

gypsygrrl — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 21:47:35 +0000

i like my current last name, but when i was with my first gf and we were talking kiddos, we wanted all of us to have the same last name. and i liked hers and no problem leaving mine go ~ tho i might have made it my middle name and we were going to have it as a second middle name for any kids we had.

as for the sweetgirl… realizing i wanted to spend my life with her and marry her and that i was doodling my first name with her last name early on in our relationship is how i knew i loved her. well, loads of other reasons, but i want her name to be mine :}

darn you now, for making me miss her LOL